Rejection in the dating world
She ironically was the head cheerleader and I was the varsity basketball captain.
Although it didn’t work out between us, I’ve been on countless dates and had several relationships since.
I used to always tell myself that my “he must approach me” tactic was simply my “style.” This may be true to a degree, but not hitting on a guy is very different from slapping an “Approach At Your Own Risk” notice on your forehead.
Let me tell you, this has nothing to do with style and everything to do with fear of rejection.
(Yeah, I guess I did just quote U2, but let’s go with it.) Still, there are times I think we can give our dating apps a little more credit than they deserve.
For instance, one article claims we have the likes of Tinder to thank for “reducing the terrifying prospect of getting rejected in person.” Is the fact that we no longer have to face people in person really something we want to be handing out props for?
The truth is as ego-boosting as a daily barrage of tiny “so hot right now” flames can be; it’s not likely to get us anywhere more meaningful from there.
I added that there’s nothing wrong with being single either.I started thinking a mile a second about my own personal experiences with dating just at that moment…No one gave me a blue print on how to find a relationship when I decided I wanted a girlfriend when I was 18. That for me was one of the most important things I could do.Than, one day, a bomb dropped on my lap while having a talk with one of my mentees. “Kerry, how do you expect ME to be successful in a relationship when you, my mentor, are single?” I had the biggest lump in my throat for the next few seconds.