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In an essay entitled "The Reality of Dating White Women When You're Black," writer Ernest Baker tackles big topics like Eurocentric beauty standards, the taboo aspect of interracial relationships, and why he dates white women, among others: Why do I date white women?Black women have told me it's because I'm a sellout.If we’ve taken the time to work hard we often want someone with the same drive or better (he better be 6’1” or taller, attractive, have a minimum of a bachelor’s degree, God-fearing, and have passport will travel), and so often we would rather wait for this man who meets all of our requirements based on our achievements which is not always in abundance depending on where in the country we live. If we do say hello to a man, sometimes they automatically assume we want a romantic relationship with him whereas if a woman of another ethnicity says a random hello, wants to network, or plays the damsel in distress role he often feels less threatened and more willing to share.
Often times, if we are accomplished, we’re seen as too independent, and if we don’t have an established career and completely cater to a man’s needs, we’re often looked at as “gold diggers.” We can’t win!Often Black women have been raised to keep our poise and act like a lady at all times, especially in public and while under pressure.However, Black men tell us they love the freedom and ability to know their woman can be flexible and go with the flow in certain more spontaneous situations.The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "thing" that people have an opinion on...Although I am a black woman in an interracial relationship, I only gave Baker's piece a cursory glance at first. "A lot of people aren't bothered by interracial relationships, but, on the flip side, many people still are.