Dating someone who has bipolar
Take note if you're paying more attention to the disease than the person.If your conversations all end up somehow coming back to bipolar or your idea of a date night is group therapy, you might want to reconnect as just people who love each other, and drink some wine and watch bad TV together.10. It's up to you to educate yourself about this disease.Get the support you need; it's up to them to accept and take responsibility for treatment.At the end of my first date with Sara, she moved in with me. Until that night, we'd only spoken on the phone a few times. By the time the ice in my soda had melted, I'd fallen in love.There are general parameters of symptoms, but they can vary wildly from person to person.2. Part of having bipolar can be what is called "anosognosia," a weird word for a simple idea: a mentally ill person who's unable to perceive that they are ill.This means a huge part of bipolar is that, when your partner most needs help, they will be least likely to look for or accept it.If I had my way, my husband would have been scarfing fish oil like it was beer, contacting his inner zen daily, eating a perfectly balanced diet and taking regular strolls in nature to reconnect. Letting go of the way things used to be before the disease take hold. Let go of thinking if your partner would just "try harder," then they wouldn't act ill when having a bipolar episode.5. because we do a lot — almost anything— for those we love the most.6. Staying on top of the medications could very well become partly your responsibility, too.7.
One year after that, my husband came home after work, sat down at the kitchen table, and told me he wanted a divorce. A few months after that, he was diagnosed with Bipolar 2, and our marriage was in for a hell of a ride. We'd gone to a Hollywood hamburger stand and gabbed about bands and writers for four hours.Sara was twenty-seven, and what people used to call a wag: smart, quick-witted, encyclopedic.And yet for all their problems, my bipolar buddies had always kept things interesting.Take my friend Jerome, hired one summer to drive a van full of rich and annoying European teenagers across the country. I didn't hear Sara's story until later, but it didn't have many funny parts.